Have you noticed how many people respond to the question ‘how are you?’ with the word ‘busy‘?
It’s like some sort of badge of honour in our society and it helps to feed our self worth ‘tank’, if we have every hour in our diary filled up.
And we flit from one thing to the next without taking time to really enjoy what we’re doing or take some headspace for ourselves.
In work we are given more and more projects and at times everything on our plate is deemed ‘urgent’. Multi-tasking in our society has been praised – but leaves us feeling depleted of energy and dissatisfied with what we’ve achieved. Outside of work we want to cram in all the family and friend catch ups – see this, do this, we have a big case of FOMO (fear of missing out).
(stay with me, there’s some good stuff coming :0) ……..
It feels fun, but can leave us feeling exhausted and a little empty. We’re going going going, ticking off our to-do-list – feeling a sense of achievement (or not) based on how much of our to do’s we’ve done.
And then there are times in our year – maybe it’s a holiday, maybe it’s when we’re sick.
When we stop.
Where there’s nothing to do, other than rest.
And suddenly there’s quiet, there’s space.
New ways of thinking are revealed to us, maybe some new insights, new dreams, reflections. This is because we give ourselves some space.
This is when our body is given the opportunity to speak to us, our intuition is not drowned out by the ‘busy-ness’. And it feels good, really good to have this space.
So why is it that we don’t give it to ourselves more regularly?
Because we don’t prioritise it in our lives.
Maybe it’s because we think it feels ‘self indulgent’ or ‘selfish’, maybe we don’t deem it as important as our ‘to do’s’ or maybe we just simply ‘forget’.
But we know how GOOD it feels and we remember this feeling.
So let me ask you – how can you bring this ‘feeling’ into your day to day life?
How can you fit in some time for you, to be with yourself at least once a day?
Here’s a few ideas if you’re stuck:
- Get out in nature. Go for a walk, sit and listen to the birds, the wind in the trees, the sound of the sea. Connect and breathe.
- Make a cup of organic tea and enjoy every sip in silence
- Take your shoes off and stand in the grass. Close your eyes and feel the ground beneath your feet.
- Take a long bath, with candles and essential oils. Close your eyes and breathe into the silence.
- Sit, place a hand on your heart, the other on your belly. Breathe through your nose and feel your belly expand on the inhale and your belly contract on the exhale. Do this for as long as you need.
- Journal. Put pen to paper and write. Write whatever comes to mind.
Now my intention here is not to give you another to-do-list!
Start small, just do one thing once a week and then add another or increase the frequency, the more you do these things, the more they become a habit and part of your routine and life.
This is ‘you’ time and is so important for your mental and physical wellbeing. After all we’re not called ‘human doings’ we’re called ‘human beings’.
So maybe it’s about time we lived up to this and started to ‘be’ more than we ‘do’.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you can give yourself more ‘me’ time and move into more ‘being’ and less ‘doing’.