Everything’s flowing and then ‘bam’

Take this scenario – everything is flowing and going well for you – you get a promotion, the kids are happy, you’re feeling great and then wham bam, something happens and all those good feelings fall away. 

Does that sound familiar?

If you’ve ever read Gay Hendricks book The Big Leap, you’ll be familiar with his concept of the upper limit problem.  He talks about how we can go from feeling good one moment to manufacturing a series of unpleasant thoughts that can deflate us the next.  We almost feel uncomfortable about enjoying the feeling of positivity for an extended period of time.

‘Enjoy a period of feeling good, then do something to mess it all up’  Gay Hendricks

Rather strangely we seem to have a human tendency to hold onto negative thought patterns that sabotage us when things are going well. When we achieve a pay rise or when something great happens. We think that it is too good to be true and that it won’t last.

And then unconsciously we do things to make this a reality.  Things start falling apart or not working out in a positive way.

Our minds feel at ease when they’re proved that they were ‘right’ all along, the little voice whispers ‘I told you it was too good to be true’.

Gay Hendricks describes in his book that to begin on your journey into your zone of genius and of ease and flow,  we need to start by asking ourselves the below questions:

  1. Am I willing to increase the amount of time every day that I feel good inside?
  2. Am I willing to increase the amount of time that my whole life goes well?
  3. Am I willing to have my whole life go well all the time?

It seems quite simple doesn’t it?  However you may find that when you ask these questions that you’re faced with some internal resistance and maybe a limiting belief  or two – ‘this is too good to be true’ or ‘that’s just not realistic’.  But if we can relax into a space of observing these thoughts that pop up, recognise them for what they are, which is just ‘thoughts’ and then relax into this place of possibility.  Then wait and see what happens.

Gay Hendricks then explains that the final question we then need to ask ourselves is:

Are you willing to take the Big Leap to your ultimate level of success in love, money and creative contribution?







*Image: Dingzeyu Li

So tell me lovely, are you READY to start taking the steps required to living in your zone of genius?
 I’d love to hear from you.


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